December 10, 2009 by Roxy
Just typing these up got me teary-eyed again.
Roxy’s: Jordan, I love you. I love the way you smile and the way you make me laugh. I love the way you can kiss away my tears and hug away my fears. You have been there for some of my best days and some of my worst days. I want you beside me for the rest of my days.
I vow to stand beside you in friendship, behind you in support, and in front of you in protection. I promise to love and cherish you and always remind you of how much I love you.
Jordan’s: I’ve been thinking a lot about when we first got together. I had just graduated and you were in Wisconsin and while I thought I would visit you a few times over the summer I wound up making the nine-hour round-trip weekend after weekend. What I remember most about those visits, apart from the time I spent with you, was the drive up, and the feeling of joyful anticipation. Just four hours until I get to see Roxy. Just three hours.
And five years later, every time we’re apart the drive back to you still feels exactly the same. It’s as strong as it was five years ago and I know it will be as strong five, ten, and fifty years from now.
It’s been a really hard year, but we got through it because we were together. We have a lot of great years ahead of us, but we’re going to have a few hard ones too, like everyone does. But when I’m with you I feel like I can weather any setback and meet any challenge.
Even in difficult times our relationship has always seemed easy. But I’m not so naive as to think it will always be easy. My vow to you is that I will always try. I promise that when I’m frustrated or when I’m scared I’ll never look for the easy way out. When things feel easy I won’t settle for contentment. And when life is hard I won’t settle for “happy enough.” I vow that I will always strive to make you happier, to love you more, and to be the husband that you deserve.
June 18, 2009 by Roxy
Last week a friend asked on Twitter: “Why do people (aka you) get married?” I didn’t send my response immediately even though I had one almost at once. Instead I sat on it for a while, in part because of other plans and also to give me time to think it over. In the end I went with my original answer, modified to fit in 140 characters. Below is the longer, and probably less poetic answer.
The truth is, aside from the legal benefits my biggest reason to get married is to have a big party with the most important people in our lives; a party celebrating my love for Jordan and his love for me. Yes, I’ll be changing my name and there will be the legal rights we didn’t have before, but I think the wedding is as much for the friends and family as the bride and groom. It’s a chance for them to show their love for us both individually and as a couple and to share in the joy that our love brings us. And when else is a couple actually encouraged to kiss so much in public? 
May 13, 2009 by Roxy
I’ve been thinking today about how easy it is to stress about little things and how seldom it matters, especially with regards to weddings. Nobody remembers the flowers you flew in because they were out of season or any of the other little details unless they’re memorable for being ridiculous. Here are some of my memories from past weddings:
- The bride using a sippy cup for toasts
- The groom and some fraternity brothers doing a choreographed dance
- Watching the bride walk down the aisle
- An amazing cake made by the bride’s father
- Being creative in getting the bride and groom to kiss since there were no bells and plastic utensils
- A flower girl running down the aisle toward her daddy
- Creative music choices at the ceremony
- The bride doing a short dance during the ceremony
I’m sure I could go on, but I feel my point has been made. The things that people remember are often the moments that make the wedding special and unique and not the favors, napkins, or flowers. So what are some of your favorite wedding memories?
April 9, 2009 by Roxy
Last weekend Jordan and I applied for our marriage license. As of today we can get married.
February 21, 2009 by Roxy
On Christmas night my boyfriend of nearly five years proposed. We decided on a late summer/early fall wedding in 2009, but the specific date was dependent on what was available in the Iowa City area. Well we’ve finally found our venues and the date is set! August 29, 2009 I will be a married woman.
Now that we have the locations and date set I’m feeling a lot more relaxed about things. It also means we can start working on some of the more fun things like cake tasting.
